In addition to that, when there are many people who say, "If I eat well, I'll do it...", you may become so overwhelmed that you have nothing to live for. That's why too much ego in the world is bad, Too little ego is also not good. If a person is right, they are not free from ego, but I think you should be careful not to hurt others because of your ego. If there are more people like you who don't want to harm others, your environment will be more pleasant, right?
Then, the ego is too much, too bad, too little, so there should be as much as it should be. At that point, I want to differentiate between ego and self-love. Ego can be defined as excessive love for oneself. Everyone needs to love themselves. But as mentioned above, if there is too much, it tends to cause harm. But you need to love yourself, not too much and not too little.
Self-love involves two things: focusing on your true inner happiness and prioritizing yourself as the most important thing.
Real happiness within yourself
I care about my own happiness, I will take care of my health, I value my happiness, I will use my freedom without harming others. If you think this year was very bad, you will be happier next year. If I can't achieve all my goals this year, I will try to achieve them next year, and so on. Love yourself more for your own life and without harming others at all. It's the mind that decides to live with a more valuable mind.
Those who are happy in life should know their own mind and control their little mind. should be repaired Those who should be comforted are those who are comforted. I don't get angry about things I can't afford. I don't waste time on things I can't fix. The main thing is that I can't control the issues. Only those who know their own value and value themselves understand what makes their life happy. Instead of loving someone else madly, I will live to be beautiful, Live yourself healthy, Ways to get things out of your head that make you angry are ways to love yourself more. "To fall in love with yourself is the first secret to happiness." As film actor Robert Morley said. Loving yourself is the first secret to happiness. That statement is very true. In fact, loving yourself is not selfishness. to be healthy to be happy to be happy It's a kind of self-love to focus on the little things you can do and try to live your life to the fullest. That's why only those who love themselves can be truly happy.
I don't do it for the sake of something or someone just because I want to be happy. For example, if you think your mood is uplifted after taking stimulants, that's not self-love. I will soon become addicted to stimulants, Your health will be affected, Your work will be affected. your family You will be able to harm the environment in some way, etc. The result will only be painful for you. If you think it's fun to use stimulants, you're wrong. In fact, it is the suffering that pretends to be happy. You are causing trouble. Similarly, if you drink alcohol because you think it makes you happy, you may have additional problems. will become addicted to alcohol, Health will be affected, social Would you be happy if you had to suffer the negative effects of the workplace? It hurts you.
I want to say that you are really happy inside. Therefore, you should consider it important to be truly happy.
Prioritizing that you are important
Asking you to think that you are important is not the same as having a big ego. A big ego is for yourself, no matter who hurts you, I prioritized only to get myself. What matters to yourself is that you are happy, To improve your mood, to complete your tasks; To become what you are aiming for, etc., without harming others, is to make yourself the most important thing. For example. Take time to exercise for your health when someone comes asking for help with their non-important matters. It's not a matter of life and death for him, so nothing can happen without your help. In such a case, you mean to define it as important. You shouldn't cancel your workout time for someone else's trivial matter.
If you take the time to read....if someone else asks you for help with nothing in your reading time, if you don't help, someone else can help him. But if you help, your reading time will be deleted. In such a case, make yourself a priority. If the time they ask for help is during your free time, it's okay for you to want to help. But when you compare your important time with someone else's unimportant matter, to prioritize yourself so that you can use your time. I want to define you as important.
So when you can exercise for your health, you will be healthier and happier. You'll be more creative because you'll have time to do something you love to make you happy, and you'll be happy because you'll be doing the things you want to do. It will come to your mind.
Only when you are happy and when you feel that your life has meaning will you be able to satisfy yourself. Then your life will be more enjoyable. Then you will be able to do what you aim for more effectively. In other words, you are being asked to prioritize.
If not, helping other people's affairs, If you don't help, you will waste your time without improving anything. Being sick and putting other people first only makes you weak. You may not have time to do the things you want to do. You will have to help the other person while you want to do what you want to do. Then you will be irritated. Will become dissatisfied. You can become what you aim for.
That's why in order to love yourself, you need to understand true happiness within yourself. You need to prioritize yourself without harming others because of yourself. Self-love is not the same as ego.