If so, what do you think the mother or father of the child would do in such a situation? If I shout at the child, I will shout, If you are angry, Some of them may even become physically beaten. Usually, if the adult is correct, it is considered that they have the right to beat the child. As for the teacher, "If the child is not clever, just put it down."
So, the things that I don't want the child to do, Can spanking a child for behavior prevent it?
As parents of children, they get angry and hit their children when it is inappropriate, but often feel sad after hitting them. In addition to that, spanking a child causes fear in the child's mind, and psychologically tells the child, "The parent does not love the child." If you do something wrong, your parents will beat you. If you're an adult, you can beat the child." This can lead to trauma. In addition to that, the child's brain development will also be adversely affected by yelling at the child. And children may learn to lie because they are afraid of being spanked.
Try to be as patient as possible.
If that's the case, when you don't want to hurt your child, you have to be extra careful and try to control yourself. For that, you need to understand the child's attitude and behavior. There, when I became a parent myself, I was beaten in my childhood, Being yelled at hurts you, right? If that's the case, what about the police....the method of beating I thought that even if you raise it with love and not by yelling, the child will not listen to you.
The main thing is to know and feel from the heart of the child that you love the child very much. Then you love the child, When the child loves you, the child will also feel that he will not hurt the person he loves. In order for that mind to develop in the child, you just need to be able to give the child full love.
Show your deep love with your actions.
If you think about the child from the child's point of view, you will know how to raise the child based on love. In the child's mind, whether the parents love the child very much has nothing to do with physical fulfillment. You should do it without making the child cry. What you shouldn't do is to do everything according to the child's will.
I will show the child with a loving gesture, I will tell you that I love you every day, If the child does something wrong, instead of yelling at the child in anger, try to be patient with yourself first (taking a deep breath, drinking a glass of water, reciting the numbers, etc.) Giving time to the child Talking to children playing with children, read to the child, telling a story to a child, Listening like a child to what the child wants to say.
Keep in mind that children are inquisitive. The mistake they made is because they did it because they didn't know it was a mistake, so they will know if you tell them that it is a mistake. Enter and feel more from the child's place. Then the child will understand.
Imagine your childhood in the place of a child who is afraid of being spanked. If you were in the place of the child who was bitten.... please think about it. Instead of being spanked 7, hug the child who is afraid of being spanked 7. Give a hug to a child who is afraid of making a mistake. Then make sure the child understands the reason why you shouldn't do it. Ask if you don't understand. If you understand, tell me you shouldn't do it again. If I make the same mistake again with my son, I will be angry, I can become angry, At that time, let the parents know that there are things that can happen. When he was beaten, his skin hurt and he felt sad. That's why you should explain what should not be done by choosing words that will be understood according to the child's age.
Give effective punishment when the child makes mistakes.
If the son and the child made the same mistake for nothing, ask him if he remembers the command that he should not do it. As I said, I have to pay the punishment. Explain that you are not punishing your child for disliking him, and make it memorable, such as punishing him with something he really likes. , When punishing, the child's skin does not hurt. It is also beneficial for the child without trauma. Parents need to learn to choose the way the child will be raised in the future. For example. The child will not eat the chocolate that he likes so much for exactly one week. such as closing the access to play games once a week; I will not buy the toy that I have to buy for the child. If the child's attitude is 7 things that will be memorized for him, when he remembers it and does it in a really disciplined way, he will think about it himself the next time. Parents themselves should not be punished and disobeyed. If that is the case, the child will not respect the punishment. If you get into the mindset of "what I do is punishable but I don't really do it," you will continue to make the same mistakes. You won't be in control either. That's why I believe what I have already said. If you make a promise, keep it. If you say you will punish, really punish. Praise the child if he listens. 7 If you say you'll give a gift, it doesn't matter if it's not worth it. Really give it. Then we will understand and follow the reward and punishment system. You don't have to hold a single stick and it will be under your control.
One thing is that you should do the behaviors mentioned above to show your love to your child every day. As for punishment, the parent needs to explain to the child that it is punishment so that they know that they should not do what they shouldn't have done because of their mistake. If that is the case, the child will understand from the heart that the parent truly loves the child.