"I want to tell you about meeting all kinds of people in daily social life. Among them, I would like to tell you whether it is correct to think that the person who gives is more noble, and the person who takes is not noble but just subtractive. First, I would like to tell you that the person who gives is divided into two types.
The person who gives is (1) a person who gives with real heart, (2) It can be divided into 2 types: those who want to be seen as good in the eyes of others, or those who give with a desire to have a personality.
1) The giver with a true heart and a true heart is true to the person who really needs it. The kind of person who gives without wanting anything in return. That kind of person is giving only because they are born with the desire to give what is really needed to someone who really needs it. I don't want to get anything back from the person who took it. "I don't want to give it to anyone..." The kind of person who has no desire to return and no hope. The kind of person who has absolutely no thought of taking a picture together with the person I sent it to and posting it on Facebook. I'm going to give it to him because of the feeling of really wanting to give it to him. For that reason, the person who takes it will also benefit a lot because it is absolutely necessary, and both of them will feel an indescribable feeling in their hearts. The person who gave it to him would be truly useful to others, so he would be filled with gratitude. The person who took it is something that they really need, so they will be grateful from the bottom of their hearts. The giver of that type also had to say how he had to give, and at the same time, the one who took it, said something like that. I will not talk about any kind of class discrimination.
Most people think that giving without expecting anything is something that only parents can do and no one else can do. In fact, there really are those number 1 type givers and takers around. That kind of giver has no personality so they don't know. For example. I took off my own shoes and gave them to someone who lost their shoes while walking. Even though you have to walk on your own bare feet, you are able to sacrifice yourself when others are in need.
The number 2 type of giver is only superficial in their willingness to give. Usually the giver of that type either wants to have a surplus with him or not. Whether it's because she doesn't want to or isn't comfortable with someone else, she doesn't think too deeply. In addition to that, I don't think too much about the feelings of the person receiving it. And he expects something in return for his giving. Especially people who want to brag in front of people are usually the number two type. What's worse is that if the person who took it is in a situation where it seems more convenient than before, "How did he give it at one time?" There is only one level that he gives and takes."
When I write this, I can say, "I still have to pay....I am still charged with sin." In fact, I have It is commendable to be able to give up what is useful for yourself and to be able to give to others with the desire to make others comfortable. (The number one type above).
Willingness to give is good. But sometimes we still need to be especially empathetic in order to understand the feelings of the other person. For example. I clean out the wardrobe of old shirts that I don't want, and give them to others without knowing whether they want them or not. (Isn't the main purpose and motive of that kind of giving to clean out your closet?)
Do the other person really need the item I gave? Is the other person really willing to accept it? For him, you should think about whether you have to accept yourself with a lot of patience. Here, the mindset of the person who takes it is not a problem. If the person who takes it is like, "These are of no use to me," then neither the giver nor the receiver can be comfortable. The person who gave it didn't feel deep joy in his heart, There will not be deep gratitude in the heart of the person who takes it. That is, because the giver thinks lightly, it becomes a light thought in the mind of the receiver. That's why it's no longer possible that only the giver is blessed. I've heard a Burmese saying, "Send me to a bad school..." It is. It should not be like that.
Next is the one who takes it. When the recipient really needs something, the giver will be deeply grateful. What about the one who gives because of that mind? The recipient's feelings will be good. But the person who takes it is lust, If the main reason is to ask and want, the person who takes it is not good. really need It is not good to desire other people's property rather than needing it, so greed will continue. At that time, when the person who is to give does not want to give, or because it is something that is really needed by him, the feeling of the giver becomes that he does not want to sacrifice to the other person. It can't be bad. Those who take it also become greedy. It is bad for both sides because the person who wants to take it covets other people's property.
That's why the person who gave it didn't want to send it to a bad school... Do not bully. Being able to give what others really need at your own sacrifice is called divine giving. Let the person who takes it take it because he really needs it and can't afford it on his own. It can be explained that selfishness and wanting to get what you want is a bad attitude. #BAWA101"