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When you hope that everyone will be the same as you...
(Here is a kind of hope about what I will do in the next year, what position I will reach, what educ...
(Here is a kind of hope about what I will do in the next year, what position I will reach, what education I will learn, but because it is similar to the goal, it can be painful, but it encourages the desire to try harder and survive. It can be called Hope)
What I want to say now is that I helped the other person to live my best life, but I was stabbed in the back instead of being as good as I expected. In other words, expectation. I hope for myself and hope for him. Humans are egoists, so when you expect someone else, you usually want to be good to yourself. Do you understand yourself again? I hope for myself, whether I love you back, etc. Expectations for them are usually the same as parents' expectations for their children. I will do my best for him, May he be comfortable....may he have a high status....may he be successful....may he be happy....may he be more educated, etc. It is not easy to hope for a stranger like that. There is...rare. Then the pain is the same. I want him to get 6 honors in the 10th grade, but only getting 3 honors is not my expectation (parents hope for their children). It's like that... I hope that he'll be nice to me, but when I find out that he's not nice to me, I'm hurt again.
Especially in the social environment, there are many kinds of problems that are not knowing what to expect from the other person. I don't expect anything, but in my subconscious, I want to be good to myself again. There is hope that I want to learn about myself. That's why it hurts. What he didn't expect was actually no pain at all. You can't even know the pain.
The best way to do that is to understand your own subconscious expectations. Whether it's when I'm helping someone as much as I can, Whether you do what you have to do, Whether it's helping someone with your own money or starting to do something, "I'll do as much as I can, I will do it because I have the opportunity to do it, I did it because I was given the opportunity to travel. Let's say we were walking and saw an elderly person having trouble crossing the street. How do you feel when you help that elderly person to cross the road? On the other hand, think about how other people think about you. You will feel a kind of joy in your heart because you have helped the other person on the road. On the other hand, he will be happy and grateful to have found someone to help him when he is in trouble. When those two people part ways, no one can feel anything but good feelings for anyone. "The secret of happiness is low expectation" is that concept.
In fact, if we look back, we can't have that kind of attitude. But because it's so common, in one way or another, they tend to expect it. Because of that, the pain is always there.
If you are your most trusted person, Beloved I will think the same thoughts in his mind, I hope that I will be fine again, but when something unexpected happens to me, it hurts. enjoy it. But don't keep your mind for too long. As the saying goes, "Expectation is a poison, that can kill your everyday."
Expecting too much is poison. It will kill you every day. Everything you'd expect. That's why when you're in pain, don't let yourself be trapped in your pain. Try to lower your expectations from the other person as much as possible. When something unexpected happens, think back, "Oh... I was expecting it." Then, reflect on yourself and say, "I've done everything I could have done to the best of my ability, haven't I?" 100% of the time and the best work done, so there is nothing to regret. If he doesn't appreciate your best, that's his business. It's up to you to do your best. When I think back and regret myself, If you don't have anything to worry about, you have fulfilled your responsibility in this matter. that's all. Think again like this. If that is the case, the feeling of self-satisfaction can heal the feeling of not being what you expected.
In life, each person's life experiences are different. Because of that, the feeling is different. Appreciation is also different. You are the most valuable to you, The best, Even if you do everything you can to the best of your ability, what you give may mean nothing to the other person. How he values And your own values can't be the same. Please consider that you cannot fully expect to receive what you give in return. If you experience it once, learn from it. "Whatever you do, you do it to the best of your ability, and not appreciating and understanding is the other person's problem, so the response will be as expected." It will make the pain less, so I encourage you."
What I want to say now is that I helped the other person to live my best life, but I was stabbed in the back instead of being as good as I expected. In other words, expectation. I hope for myself and hope for him. Humans are egoists, so when you expect someone else, you usually want to be good to yourself. Do you understand yourself again? I hope for myself, whether I love you back, etc. Expectations for them are usually the same as parents' expectations for their children. I will do my best for him, May he be comfortable....may he have a high status....may he be successful....may he be happy....may he be more educated, etc. It is not easy to hope for a stranger like that. There is...rare. Then the pain is the same. I want him to get 6 honors in the 10th grade, but only getting 3 honors is not my expectation (parents hope for their children). It's like that... I hope that he'll be nice to me, but when I find out that he's not nice to me, I'm hurt again.
Especially in the social environment, there are many kinds of problems that are not knowing what to expect from the other person. I don't expect anything, but in my subconscious, I want to be good to myself again. There is hope that I want to learn about myself. That's why it hurts. What he didn't expect was actually no pain at all. You can't even know the pain.
The best way to do that is to understand your own subconscious expectations. Whether it's when I'm helping someone as much as I can, Whether you do what you have to do, Whether it's helping someone with your own money or starting to do something, "I'll do as much as I can, I will do it because I have the opportunity to do it, I did it because I was given the opportunity to travel. Let's say we were walking and saw an elderly person having trouble crossing the street. How do you feel when you help that elderly person to cross the road? On the other hand, think about how other people think about you. You will feel a kind of joy in your heart because you have helped the other person on the road. On the other hand, he will be happy and grateful to have found someone to help him when he is in trouble. When those two people part ways, no one can feel anything but good feelings for anyone. "The secret of happiness is low expectation" is that concept.
In fact, if we look back, we can't have that kind of attitude. But because it's so common, in one way or another, they tend to expect it. Because of that, the pain is always there.
If you are your most trusted person, Beloved I will think the same thoughts in his mind, I hope that I will be fine again, but when something unexpected happens to me, it hurts. enjoy it. But don't keep your mind for too long. As the saying goes, "Expectation is a poison, that can kill your everyday."
Expecting too much is poison. It will kill you every day. Everything you'd expect. That's why when you're in pain, don't let yourself be trapped in your pain. Try to lower your expectations from the other person as much as possible. When something unexpected happens, think back, "Oh... I was expecting it." Then, reflect on yourself and say, "I've done everything I could have done to the best of my ability, haven't I?" 100% of the time and the best work done, so there is nothing to regret. If he doesn't appreciate your best, that's his business. It's up to you to do your best. When I think back and regret myself, If you don't have anything to worry about, you have fulfilled your responsibility in this matter. that's all. Think again like this. If that is the case, the feeling of self-satisfaction can heal the feeling of not being what you expected.
In life, each person's life experiences are different. Because of that, the feeling is different. Appreciation is also different. You are the most valuable to you, The best, Even if you do everything you can to the best of your ability, what you give may mean nothing to the other person. How he values And your own values can't be the same. Please consider that you cannot fully expect to receive what you give in return. If you experience it once, learn from it. "Whatever you do, you do it to the best of your ability, and not appreciating and understanding is the other person's problem, so the response will be as expected." It will make the pain less, so I encourage you."
