1) impatience; Shouting
As a child, there will be many unknowns, There will be many things that have not yet been done. Some adults, either at a time when it is not appropriate for adults Either when something is bothering you, Being impatient with the child They tend to vote for children. If the child is hurt by something like that, the child no longer has confidence in himself or herself. Being afraid of adults all the time. In such a situation, I have seen some adults talk like it is a matter of pride for a child to be afraid of an adult. Actually that is wrong. A child who is always afraid will never become a brilliant child. It can delay the child's brain development.
2) Prohibiting something without explaining it
There are some adults. If the child is doing something, don't do it. When it is prohibited, it does not explain why it should not be done.
I don't know why the child asked me to do it because I didn't explain it. That's why he likes to do what he's interested in. For example, If you want to touch the hot water, say, "You mustn't touch that." It will be hot. If the hands are hot, the hands often become sore. That's why I didn't ask you to hold it." You should explain it like that. By explaining it like that, the child understands the reason why the mother does not want to hold it, and no longer tries to hold it when the parent is out of sight. (Every child is different, so you need to explain patiently. It is important that your explanation be in a way that is easy for the child to understand.)
3) Screaming with rude words
Some parents not only scold the child, but also shout and abuse. That is completely wrong. When children are absent from their parents, either Whether it's playing with a child or hearing it, the child uses it again when angry. I think that is good. Rather than hearing bad words, the parents themselves say those words to their children, so the child thinks they are good. That's why you shouldn't do it where you can't discipline the child.
4) I tend to chase wherever I want, What's not, it's very hot
Some parents don't discipline where they shouldn't. They behave towards children according to their emotions. For example. Parents are happy. Even if the child is doing what should be forbidden, "Don't do it again..." It's like it's been uploaded. If it's a case that needs to be severely banned, it must be banned. But it's not like that, because when they're happy, they don't do anything harshly. But when the parent's mind is disturbed by something, the child draws pictures in the books. Why are you dragging me?" He yelled and began to punish me severely. Such behavior is wrong. If you are happy with yourself, you should not punish the child. When you have to discipline your child when you are upset, you shouldn't blame the child at all.
5) Self-deletion of the rule set by him
Some parents like candy, You can't eat jelly...etc. It is wrong for the parents themselves to buy sweets and jelly for their children. If it's a rule that you set for your child, you must not break it yourself, and those who encourage the child to break it (for example, grandparents, uncles, aunts, etc.)
must be banned.
6) Not choosing when to discipline
Some parents leave their children among people. They tend to make trouble among the child's friends. That is often embarrassing for the child. That's why, in cases where there is no need to worry the child immediately, such as not talking to the child, Or, "Son...come here for a while" and you should do some kind of reprimand in defense. Not like that, don't shy away from people. The child will not listen to your discipline. Along with shyness, it can become a fight back.
Parents should follow the above points and see that they can't help their children.