It is impossible to understand why such a child is trying to achieve something in his growing life. If you want something for your child, you will ask for it from the parent or guardian. If you can't ask for it once, or if you can't ask for it twice, or if you can't ask for it sometimes, it will lead to the idea that you will cry and go on a rampage. Even as a child, if you want something, you think that you can get it if you cry and protest and ask for it.
A child who thinks that his parents can create everything when he reaches adulthood, tries to create anything with his own abilities. I don't want to try my best to get possessions, I don't know if my parents are comfortable, It is likely to become the kind of bad boy or girl who gossips without knowing that it is not convenient.
When they reach adulthood, parents will not be able to manage everything in their children's lives. If the children do not rely on themselves but rely on their parents until the time is right, until the sunset of their parents' lives, at a time when the parents themselves have no more strength, the children will become powerless. Parents will not be able to die. That's why parents who fulfill their children's needs from an early age can become powerless for their children.
In order to prevent this from happening, it is necessary to fulfill the child's needs physically. Children can try to create by themselves, It is also important to teach children to be responsible from their childhood. Nurturing a child to develop his potential is a child's guardian, A lot depends on the parents.
Besides that, a child can be taught to take responsibility according to his age. Some parents say, "He's a child, so he can't do it yet." "Don't ask the child...how will he learn to do it?" "What does the child know?" "He'll understand when he grows up." For example. Asking a 2-year-old 3-year-old child to play and put the toys back in their place, Teaching to wipe up spilled water on the floor, such as putting the book back on the bookshelf, brushing teeth new face A comb.
4 years old Asking a 5-year-old child to go to bed Asking to help prepare rice, etc. Teaching children to learn more about their responsibilities according to their age, When you are asked to take responsibility and do things on a regular basis, you don't feel particularly responsible for the child anymore, and think that it is what you should do in your day. That's why he no longer felt responsible, and taking responsibility for himself became a normal thing.
Some parents start picking lunch with the thought that if their child is studying... At the end of applying tanhaka, drinking water At the end of washing the rice dishes, there are some. Those children are educated, Despite getting good grades in school, In fact, in a house He no longer understands what his role is in a family. He had never done this before in his life, so when he was faced with surviving alone among many people, he often became unsure of how to take responsibility for even small daily tasks. For some grown-up children, even the plate that has already been eaten, when the parent is giving the medicine or the maid is giving the medicine, whether it is in the real community. I have seen a lot of children who don't even know how to wash the rice bowl they represent when they go to another field.
Another problem is when you go to school in a foreign country. Burmese parents' thinking that they can't do anything for their children... It is difficult to survive alone. The rice pot is not made with a steam pot, I don't know how to cook, I don't know how to clean the house. How can a child who can't even take responsibility for such normal daily survival tasks be responsible for his entire life when his parents are gone?
From childhood to adulthood, the only guarantee of his life is his self-effort and lack of personal power. A child who is able to distinguish between right and wrong and knows that it is good to try his own best, and who really tries, will be able to make his own way in life, so there is no need for parents to worry. Not like that, parents solve everything, A child who has to think and make decisions is almost certainly going to be chaotic when he builds his life without his parents.
That's why your child is "young... I haven't done anything yet... I don't know anything...” Don't take responsibility for everything. Don't ask for anything. Let him take on as many small responsibilities as he can from childhood, according to his age. Teach to be responsible. Have them practice. He urged that teaching him to be a person who can live independently and take responsibility for his own life one day without being dependent on anyone is the best legacy he has given the child.