"1) Be loving and kind
We cannot talk to each other as if we were speaking to an enemy. More jobs than before more complicated As you become more sensitive, your cute gestures and voice like when you were courting will change when you become married. But love needs to be shown. The man also needs to show that he still loves the woman. Women also need to show their love to men. Not a girlfriend, "I love you..." It's wrong that I don't need to say that kind of words anymore. It is even more necessary for married couples to say "I love..." to each other. Men treat women kindly, do not support You should help. From that, the woman also felt rejuvenated with the thought, "Even though I'm married, do you still love me even after a long time?" Even if you do talk, choosing sweet words instead of being rude will help you to settle your relationship and your marriage will be happy. Since you are the head of the family, if you say no, your wife will also say no to you. If that becomes a lesson for your children, it's not good. Your behavior will be passed down from your children to your grandchildren, so don't forget that your children and grandchildren depend on you to do well.
2) Don't lie even if it's a small thing. Believe it
Lying in marriage is also an enemy. Don't talk about big things....If a spouse who lies starts with a small matter, even if he tells the truth, trust is depleted. For example. The head of the household who lies to his wife even about the small matter of going to a tea party with friends will not be trusted even if the wife does not lie in other big matters and tell the truth. When they don't trust each other, they start to doubt each other. Doubt can destroy a marriage. That's why both sides should not lie about anything and explain the truth in a reasonable manner.
3) Be faithful
Make an agreement with each other not to lie even if it's a small thing. So agree because there will be mutual trust. That way, both you and your spouse will fully trust each other. That can no longer be doubted among you. If there is any doubt, please explain it in advance. Be really true to yourself. Because they trust each other, "What have you done secretly so that I don't know..." When there is no doubt, they fight with each other. heartbreak, It is no longer possible to talk. "He is really faithful to me" can make your marriage happy.
4) Listen
If you are the head of the family and work outside, don't think that your wife won't have anything special to say because she stays at home. Stay home all day and listen when he wants to confide. Please advise. Open up to your wife about everything that happens in your day. open up to each other; counseling Planning for the future can also make your marriage last. Since they listen to each other's confidences, it also relieves stress. When you are free from stress, you will not be disappointed when you get home, and you will vote for your wife. It is no longer possible to vote for children.
5) Understand
Your wife is also a person. You are also a person. Sometimes I feel like a robot in life while doing work. The two of you married for love, but the people in your circle of relatives will like you if you want to like each other. Is that right?... When you got married, you only got married because you loved your partner. After you marry your lover, you have to accept everything about him. It's like that....from his side, it's the same way. What I want to say is that he can understand you because he loves you, but he wants to understand those who are related to you. That's why you need to understand each other. For example. If one of your relatives behaves inappropriately towards your wife. Your wife is also a person with feelings. He will explode….you understand. Even if he wants to open up, you listen. Tell him to satisfy. You will be back in time, but you are the only one who can make your family and community comfortable. Everything he confides, To listen to all the explosions is to understand that he must feel because he is a human being. Some happen. "You don't need to come and tell my family... why are you?" It's like saying. Don't say anything like that at all. You are just a human being... there will be different feelings. So did his family. The main thing is that you and your wife understand it. understand that Understand each other. Feel in his place. Try to experience your sibling's actions from your spouse's point of view. "That's right...how would I feel in his place?" Think like this. That's it I am not fighting against your community and your spouse. If you understand and your spouse explodes, you say to empathize. In addition to that, understand your spouse's place in many other matters. When you understand from his side, even if he is allergic to your community, he will try to make you comfortable. If you yourself are not sensitive to your community, your marriage will not work.
6) Be empathetic
Marriage cannot be selfish. If you have compassion for others, you should have even more compassion for your spouse. If you're thinking, "I'm more tired earning money....when I get home, I don't have to do anything..." You're wrong. Remember that housework is even more so when there is no time to rest. Then empathize with how you can help your spouse on your days off. Something like "What I do will be saved..." Rather than saying, "Oh... I'm earning and he can't stop doing housework. If I help you...” think. Then your spouse will think the same way you think about you. When you sympathize with each other and help each other, your marriage will be more stable.
7) Be aware of the commemorative days
The day you signed, wedding day Even if you tend to forget small memories like your spouse's birthday, make a note of it. Think about what you can do beforehand. You don't need to spend a lot of money. Even a small memory of you can surprise your spouse. For example. Even if you don't have a lot of money in your hand, it's like, "Lady, today is the day we signed, so I bought a new underwear as a gift." Is your wife up to date? Is it expensive? Are you cheap?... Nothing will be argued. As soon as he gets a note from you, he will be in awe.
8) Have free time
You also have your work and you. Your spouse is busy with his work. When you have too much time, you will be stressed, Then they explode with each other. If your wife wants to go shopping with her friends, let her go. "Oh... I have too much work to do all week long," think. allow Let your spouse understand you too. If you have children, you need even more free time. I wonder if your wife even has a break. children laugh you laugh Create a free time with your spouse and have fun. Walking in the park Go shopping with the market. It gives you time for your child as well as time for your spouse. One cut and two cuts.
9) Overcome good and bad together
I have seen some married people. If bad things have to be solved, it is only the woman who bullies her with the mindset of "I am the head of the family". Even if the head of the family does not solve the problem directly, they should solve it together. Not like that, when the married woman is left alone, the married woman will not be able to bear the stress anymore. Some of them accepted the help of another man and fell in love with that man. It can go from dependence to adultery. Hot plants, only married men. Problem mapping is the same. (It's not legal, but it's telling what's common) Marriage is a promise to face life together. That's why both of us need to be good to face life together. Both knowledge, If you have wisdom, We will be able to face all difficulties together. whose responsibility I can't divide it because of who it is.
10) Be forgiving
Not everyone is wrong. If you know the mistake and correct it, If you are willing to correct the truth, you are already a good person. That's why when your spouse admits his mistakes and makes amends, don't take his mistakes for granted. Forgive me. Forgiveness is also important in marriage.
The main things needed for a happy marriage have been told. As much as possible, men and women can build a happy marriage by following it. #BAWA101"