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The basic reasons for adultery
Adultery is one of the worst things that can happen to a person. It is also one of the most common forms of adultery. It can destroy a family and, if there are children, it can also cause emotional pain to the children. The victim of the adultery will also feel pain, shame, and insecurity. From the perspective of the adulterer, what are the reasons? Is it because of lust? We do not know if it is because of other social, economic, professional, or financial circumstances. However, it is best to be careful not to commit adultery in a marriage, whether it is a woman or a man. Not only one person will suffer because of your momentary desires. It is a family of two. That is why I have thought about and written some of the basic reasons for adultery.
1) Financial Needs
The main reason for infidelity is financial inadequacy. Married women often have no income or depend on their husbands to cover their household expenses. In such cases, when the household income is higher than the household income, financial needs can increase. In such situations, another man helps them out, or they feel comfortable with the support of another man. Because the other man thinks that his income is better than their husbands, the other person is morally weak.
2) Not being a good spouse
What I mean is that marriage is about living together with mutual support. The partner who will live with you until the end of your life should be a good partner, who can advise you on what to do, discuss what to discuss, solve problems together, and when one is in trouble, the other should be ready to find a solution. If a bad spouse is unable to help you when you are in trouble, you may feel disappointed when your spouse cannot solve the problem, even if it is not obvious once or twice. When you are disappointed, the love you once had can disappear like a cloud. At that time, you may take help from another person, or another person may help you solve the problem that your spouse should solve, and you may start to admire that person in your place. You may become dependent. You may become jealous. This can lead to an unplanned marriage because of a bad spouse.
3) Lack of ability
Everyone has their own value. Knowing that value and trying to make that value shine becomes that person's ability. But some people do not understand this. Then they cannot make the existing value shine more brightly. In this way, the value becomes dull and dull and they become lazy. If you think that you will fix it after marriage, you will not be able to have a happy marriage. After a while of marriage, when a spouse who does not know his own worth and does not want to improve his skills starts to think that he is too stupid or too simple, he starts to see another smart person. In a marriage, it is also necessary to be balanced. When one is too smart and the other is too stupid, the stupid person is left in the lurch. Therefore, let them become smart together, and when one improves his skills, the other should try to improve together. Otherwise, the smart person will be looked down upon by the smart people in his surrounding community, which can lead to adultery.
4) Inability to lead
In a marriage, a dependent woman relies on the head of the household who can lead properly. However, even a head of the household cannot be trusted in the family, and if he cannot lead properly, the whole family will be helpless. That is why a head of the household must be able to lead. What is often seen around is that he cannot lead, Because of an unreliable head of the household, the wife becomes dependent on the husband and commits adultery. Because of an untrustworthy head of the household, the wife becomes frustrated with the husband who is leading the household, and the husband is disappointed with the wife who is leading the household, in other words, a woman who allows her ego to flourish and becomes happy and commits adultery.
5) Disappointment in each other
It is common for those who cannot distinguish between lust and love and get married early. In a marriage that is not resolved due to a situation, when the time comes for love to fade, they become disappointed in each other. Disappointment in each other pushes them to seek new happiness outside. The one who starts looking for something new starts to become the one who commits adultery.
6) Weak religious awareness
A person who is weak in religion cannot control everything that happens in the marriage. They are unstable and easily cling to whatever they see. A person who does not have religious awareness is also weak in controlling their lust. In such a situation, a person should be careful, and his morals are weak to be religiously controlled. It is also easy to break the five karmas. In other words, one's mind, which is prone to deviation, cannot be controlled by religious knowledge.
In fact, a good spouse is one who is happy with his spouse, who is happy when he is happy, who is happy when he is sad It is necessary to fulfill both responsibilities: the man must lead a family, be a good father who truly values the truth and who can be relied on for his children, and the woman must be a good spouse, and be a good mother who can raise her children properly. When we cannot fulfill our responsibilities, we tend to do things that we shouldn't do, or we try to solve things that we shouldn't do, in an easy way. Therefore, we urge you to remember the basic reasons that can lead to adultery and try to fulfill your responsibilities.
The main reason for infidelity is financial inadequacy. Married women often have no income or depend on their husbands to cover their household expenses. In such cases, when the household income is higher than the household income, financial needs can increase. In such situations, another man helps them out, or they feel comfortable with the support of another man. Because the other man thinks that his income is better than their husbands, the other person is morally weak.
2) Not being a good spouse
What I mean is that marriage is about living together with mutual support. The partner who will live with you until the end of your life should be a good partner, who can advise you on what to do, discuss what to discuss, solve problems together, and when one is in trouble, the other should be ready to find a solution. If a bad spouse is unable to help you when you are in trouble, you may feel disappointed when your spouse cannot solve the problem, even if it is not obvious once or twice. When you are disappointed, the love you once had can disappear like a cloud. At that time, you may take help from another person, or another person may help you solve the problem that your spouse should solve, and you may start to admire that person in your place. You may become dependent. You may become jealous. This can lead to an unplanned marriage because of a bad spouse.
3) Lack of ability
Everyone has their own value. Knowing that value and trying to make that value shine becomes that person's ability. But some people do not understand this. Then they cannot make the existing value shine more brightly. In this way, the value becomes dull and dull and they become lazy. If you think that you will fix it after marriage, you will not be able to have a happy marriage. After a while of marriage, when a spouse who does not know his own worth and does not want to improve his skills starts to think that he is too stupid or too simple, he starts to see another smart person. In a marriage, it is also necessary to be balanced. When one is too smart and the other is too stupid, the stupid person is left in the lurch. Therefore, let them become smart together, and when one improves his skills, the other should try to improve together. Otherwise, the smart person will be looked down upon by the smart people in his surrounding community, which can lead to adultery.
4) Inability to lead
In a marriage, a dependent woman relies on the head of the household who can lead properly. However, even a head of the household cannot be trusted in the family, and if he cannot lead properly, the whole family will be helpless. That is why a head of the household must be able to lead. What is often seen around is that he cannot lead, Because of an unreliable head of the household, the wife becomes dependent on the husband and commits adultery. Because of an untrustworthy head of the household, the wife becomes frustrated with the husband who is leading the household, and the husband is disappointed with the wife who is leading the household, in other words, a woman who allows her ego to flourish and becomes happy and commits adultery.
5) Disappointment in each other
It is common for those who cannot distinguish between lust and love and get married early. In a marriage that is not resolved due to a situation, when the time comes for love to fade, they become disappointed in each other. Disappointment in each other pushes them to seek new happiness outside. The one who starts looking for something new starts to become the one who commits adultery.
6) Weak religious awareness
A person who is weak in religion cannot control everything that happens in the marriage. They are unstable and easily cling to whatever they see. A person who does not have religious awareness is also weak in controlling their lust. In such a situation, a person should be careful, and his morals are weak to be religiously controlled. It is also easy to break the five karmas. In other words, one's mind, which is prone to deviation, cannot be controlled by religious knowledge.
In fact, a good spouse is one who is happy with his spouse, who is happy when he is happy, who is happy when he is sad It is necessary to fulfill both responsibilities: the man must lead a family, be a good father who truly values the truth and who can be relied on for his children, and the woman must be a good spouse, and be a good mother who can raise her children properly. When we cannot fulfill our responsibilities, we tend to do things that we shouldn't do, or we try to solve things that we shouldn't do, in an easy way. Therefore, we urge you to remember the basic reasons that can lead to adultery and try to fulfill your responsibilities.
